Point Person Application


Points of Contact Application for Membership

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Points Of Contact: Volunteer Matchmaking Ltd (CC) (ID 516754926) ("POC" or "We") is the coordinator of an all-volunteer, closed, confidential community of matchmakers ("Point People") whose aim is to set up Jewish Anglos for marriage purposes. The singles represented through POC ("Singles") come from across the religious spectrum, and they are located both in Israel and abroad. Our featured Singles are Anglos, Anglo-Israelis, Israelis with Anglo parents, and Israelis who speak English fluently. The common denominator is English and/or Anglo background so that English can be a part of their cultural landscape.

We take our responsibility towards our Singles very seriously. Therefore, We need to carefully review potential Point People. Trust is what POC holds dear and what is expected of every Point Person. By submitting this application to become a Point Person, the person doing so ("You") and POC can together make sure there's a "match" between us in terms of aspiration, goals, compliance and adherence to our rules. After You submit this application, You will be notified as to the next step.

By submitting this application to POC, You confirm that the information entered in Section 2, below, is correct and complete, and You commit yourself to following the rules in the paragraphs marked thus: * if You are accepted as a Point Person. (The pronoun “I” in these paragraphs refers to You.) You also accept the Legal Provisions in Section 9, below.

Section 2 of 9

Point Person Questionnaire

(Except where noted, all responses in this section are required.)

 

First name:

Last name:

Email:

Age range:

Mobile phone number:

Do you have WhatsApp at this number?

Place of residence (country and city or town):

Language skills:

I am fluent enough in these languages to interview singles, discuss matches, speak to references, etc. (check all that apply):

Marital Status:

Note: Point People are usually married or have been married before. But if You are single and are acquainted with several other singles who would be happy to be represented by You as their Point Person, then You are in the right place.

Computer Literacy:

Check all boxes that apply.

 

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Your relationship with POC

POC and its community of Point People are an all-volunteer operation. We have great respect for those for whom matchmaking is a livelihood, but our Singles come to us knowing that they will never be asked or expected to pay anything for the help We and our Point People provide them with. Accordingly, no one who is a professional matchmaker may be a Point Person. Any exceptions, which will be extremely rare and for compelling reasons, must be approved by POC on a case-by-case basis. You agree not to make any express or implied request for financial reward as compensation for your involvement in a match between POC singles.

* I hereby affirm that I am not involved in matchmaking for compensation as described above, and if this changes in the future, I will promptly notify POC of the change.

Although it is not an absolute requirement, a new Point Person is strongly encouraged to try to bring in at least three new Singles, of whom at least two are male, after joining POC’s community. (If you are an existing Point Person, that is, you have already been one for a while, you do not need to bring in new singles at the time you sign this agreement.)

* I will make an effort to bring new singles into POC, as described.

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Relationships between Point People and Singles

TRUST

One of the things which sets POC apart is the bond of trust between Point People and their Singles, which is based on the personal relationship between them. This can only work if the Single also feels that he/she can trust POC as an organization. One of our key rules, which is critical to maintaining that trust, is that a Point Person never shares a Profile, picture or any other details from a Single’s profile with another Single, or with anyone else, without the explicit permission of the first Single’s Point Person. Violating this rule defames the other Point Person, as well as POC itself, in the eyes of the Single and of any other Singles, mentors, etc. that he/she mentions it to.

* I agree never to share information from the profile of another Point Person’s single with anyone without first receiving explicit permission from the other Point Person.

In the Application for Representation signed by Singles, We make it clear to them that We and our Point People do not perform any “background checks” on our Singles and so it is their responsibility to do any such investigating that they think is needed. However, if a Point Person is posting a Single whom he/she does not already know well, then the Point Person must first make a serious effort to get to know this individual. At a minimum, this means interviewing the Single in depth and speaking to at least two references that the Single provides.

* I will make a serious effort to get to know my Singles well enough that I can feel confident about setting them up on dates through POC, including by spending enough time interviewing them and by speaking to their references.

 

Another rule which is critical to maintaining trust is that the Single’s relationship to POC is only through his/her Point Person. Directly contacting another Point Person’s Single (as a Point Person acting for POC) violates that trust.

* I agree never to contact another Point Person’s Single directly (as a Point Person acting for POC).

Similarly, the fact that a Single is represented through POC is strictly confidential and should stay between the Single and the Point Person. Saying to a Single You meet at some venue (e.g. a wedding), “Oh, I saw you on Points of Contact,” or, much worse, telling a third party “I saw your son / daughter / cousin / roommate on POC” is a serious breach of our rules because it violates the trust between the Single and the Point Person. If Singles themselves choose to share the fact that they are being helped by POC, that is, of course, their privilege.

* I agree that, while I am active as a Point Person and for an unlimited period of time thereafter, I will not mention to another Point Person’s Single the fact that I know of his/her representation through POC, and I will not share or otherwise make available to any third party, directly or indirectly, whether verbally or in writing, any information about another Point Person's Single that I have learned from another Point Person, or from anyone else through my relationship with POC, without the permission of the Single’s Point Person (who will have first gotten permission from the Single).

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Relationships between Point People

RESPECT

Mutual respect is critical to achieving POC’s mission. Your fellow Point People are your neighbors, friends, family members, and people from the larger community. If another Point Person tries to contact You regarding one of your Singles, then You should always get back to him or her promptly, that is, preferably within 24 hours or, at most, within 48 hours (excluding Shabbat and Yom Tov). If necessary, a quick "I am busy right now; I will get back to you tomorrow," is acceptable, so long as You follow up in a timely manner.

* I will do everything I can to respond promptly to messages from other Point People, as described above.

Similarly, if one of POC’s group administrators reaches out to You, please don't ignore it. He or she is doing so for a reason, and, just like all other Point People, is entitled to expect a prompt response, i.e. within 1-2 business days.

If We don't get a response within a week, We will remove You from the group. If You would like to rejoin, We will be happy to have You back (provided You re-commit to following the rules), but in that case You will need to reach out to POC. To avoid this, if You are going to be unreachable for a temporary period longer than a week, due to a family simcha, wilderness trek, medical procedure or for some other reason, it is best to inform POC in advance through a group administrator, if possible.

* I agree to respond promptly to messages from administrators, as with all other Point People. I consent that if repeated attempts to reach me are unsuccessful over a period longer than a week, I may be removed from being a Point Person and will need to rejoin.

It is most important to respect the fact that each Point Person is “the expert” on his/her Singles’s needs, desires, and personality. If a Single’s Point Person says that the match You are proposing is not "matim" (a good fit) for the Single, say “Thank you for taking the time to check,” and move on to looking for a different match. There are many other possibilities out there!

* I agree to always respect the evaluation of another Point Person that the match I am proposing for that Point Person’s Single should not be pursued.

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Relationships between POC and our Singles

Our Singles range from Secular to Ultra Orthodox and everything in between. They became POC Singles because they are marriage-minded. That is their goal, and helping them to reach it is our goal. For us to help them reach it, they have to be able to trust us, be willing to help us help them, and have reasonable expectations of what POC can and cannot do for them. For us to achieve this, it is important that You adhere to the following rules:

In order for You to represent a Single on POC, and specifically before You add the Single to the Facebook page, the Single must first complete and digitally sign the online Points of Contact Application for Representation, in which he/she gives explicit consent for this to be done. You should consult with the designated POC admin to verify that the form has been properly signed.

* I will not list any Single on the POC Facebook page without the Single first giving consent by completing the abovementioned application form.

Singles ask to be represented because they trust POC and its community of Point People. It is critical to maintain that trust, but it is also important for the Singles to understand the limits of what it covers. We do not verify references or anything of that sort. The Point People are the only references. Check with each other first, but any additional checking is the Single’s responsibility.

* I will make sure that all of my Singles clearly understand what is covered by POC’s commitment to them and what is not.

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Posting Profiles

What sets your Single apart from all others is the Single’s personal profile (“Profile") that You post. The online Points of Contact Application for Representation that must be signed by each Single as a condition of being represented through POC includes the following wording:

“You agree to provide true, accurate, current, and complete information about yourself, including the following:

  • Name

  • Age

  • Height

  • Country of origin

  • Current location (country and city or town)

  • Education

  • Profession and work status

  • Hashkafa, level of religious observance

  • Marital status (never married, divorced, or widowed)

  • A brief description of yourself

  • A brief description of the type of person you are looking for, including the age range you are willing to date in (number of years younger / older than you are)

  • Any other relevant information requested by your Point Person. For example, if your current location is Israel, but your country of origin is the United States, then you might be asked to provide your year of aliya (if applicable) and level of fluency in Hebrew.

This information (the "Provided Information") must be included in the Profile or resume that you send to your Point Person. If you don’t already have a profile, your Point Person will include the Provided Information in the Profile that is created for you.

POC also strongly recommends that you provide at least two pictures that were taken within the last year, one headshot and one full body for the Facebook post. This is not a requirement, but photos often result in more suggestions for matches from Point People in the group via your Point Person.

You consent, of your own free will and although not required to do so under law, that the Provided Information will be held and managed by POC for the purpose of confidential matchmaking activity, and that POC will be entitled to transfer any of the Provided Information to your Point Person, to other Point People and to other singles whenever, in the sole discretion of POC (including that of any Point Person), this is necessary to check a possible match. The Provided Information will be used and transferred for legitimate purposes only and in order to fulfill POC's purposes.

If any Provided Information becomes out-of-date, you agree to update your Point Person within a reasonable time. Your Point Person will then update your Profile as posted on Facebook with the new information. You can ask your Point Person for a copy of your posted Profile at any time."

A Profile should present the Single in the best possible light but also be honest. You are not expected to conduct an “FBI investigation” but as his/her Point Person, You should know the Single well enough to spot any outrageous factual misstatements. Your Singles’ Profiles establish the first impression Point People and other Singles have of them, so help them to make it a good one.

Above all, the Profile should be compelling to read, not a cookie-cutter one. All Profiles must be in English and posted on Facebook as text. Images of text (e.g. a screenshot of a Word document containing a Profile) are not allowed to be posted on POC’s Facebook page. If We see a Profile posted that falls seriously short of standard information or format, it will be deleted without prior notice. (Of course, once it has been fixed, You will be free to post the new version.)

The Profile must contain information provided by the Single after You have made it clear to him that the information will be published on Facebook and he/she has given his consent to this by signing the online Points of Contact Application for Representation.

If your Single gives you an update of his or her Profile information, you should promptly update any related Facebook posts, either by editing the existing posts or by deleting them and posting a new, up-to-date Profile. If your Single asks for a copy of his or her Profile as posted on Facebook, it is your responsibility to provide one. Do not use a screenshot for this purpose. Instead, send your Single the text of the Profile as text and any photos as separate image files.

In the POC Facebook page, only Point People are able to view Profile posts. Giving any other person access to this information, except where allowed by this agreement, is also a violation of Facebook's Terms and Conditions that may result in your being banned from Facebook as a whole (not just from POC's closed discussion group), and you may be legally liable for any consequences that result.

* I will help my Singles create suitable Profiles. I will not post Profiles to Facebook that do not conform to the guidelines above, and I understand that if I do so, such Profiles may be deleted immediately. I will not knowingly post on Facebook any false or misleading information, and I will try to be sure my Singles understand and agree about what information about them will be available to Point People on Facebook. I will update the Facebook posts of my Singles when they provide me with new information and provide any who request it with a copy of the Profile as currently posted, in the form of text and photos, not as a screenshot. I understand that giving anyone access to Profile information in violation of this agreement may subject me to penalties imposed by Facebook and to legal liability, over and beyond any steps taken as a result by POC.

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Making the match

Once You and the other Single’s Point Person have discussed a specific match that someone on POC suggested for your Single, and both Point People agree that it should be proposed, You can tell your Single “Hey, I have someone that I think would be a good match for you!” and provide your Single with any information from the other Single’s Profile.

You may only send your Single one recommendation at a time. You are not, under any circumstances, allowed to send a Single multiple Profiles at one time, for him/her to choose from. That is our job as Point People: to sort through Profiles and recommend the best matches possible, after both Point People have agreed.

* I will only propose a match to one of my Singles with the agreement of the other Single’s Point Person. I will never, under any circumstances, provide one of my Singles with information about multiple people at one time from the Facebook page.

To avoid unnecessary disappointment and frustration, a match should never be proposed to both Singles simultaneously. First, the fact that one of them is interested should be established, and only then should the other one be approached. The two Point People decide together on which of their Singles to approach first.

* I will agree with the other Point Person involved which of our singles to discuss the proposed match with first.

The POC Facebook page has videos and other resources that can be used to explain to Singles the basics of responsible dating etiquette. It might come as a surprise to learn that even Singles in their thirties and forties may have never learned—or may have forgotten—this information. If You sense that there is, or might be, a problem in this area, You owe it both to your Single and to the other POC Single(s) that he/she will be going out with to help correct it. In the case of severe misconduct by a Single (e.g. rude or abusive texting), he/she may be banned from being represented through POC.

* I will do what seems reasonably possible to help my Singles conduct themselves with mentchlichkeit (common decency and respect for others) when set up on a date by POC’s Point People.

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Legal Provisions

For POC to remain a viable endeavor, each Point Person needs to accept the Legal Provisions that appear below, and submitting this application indicates that You agree to them.

A. Legal Disclaimers of Warranties and Limitations of Liability

As a Point Person representing Singles through POC, You agree to accept all of the disclaimers of warranties and limitations of liability below.

These disclaimers of warranties and limitations of liability shall be interpreted in a manner that, to the extent possible, most closely approximates an absolute disclaimer and waiver of all liability. However, nothing in these disclaimers of warranties and limitations of liability is intended to disclaim, limit or exclude any warranty or basis of liability that it would be unlawful to disclaim, to limit or to exclude. Where disclaimers of warranties and/or limitations of liability are not allowed by law, in full or in part, these disclaimers and limitations may not apply to You.

POC does not perform any background checks on its Singles or Point People, nor does it have either the responsibility or the resources to do screening, verifying or validating of information. In dealing with Singles or other Point People, it is your responsibility to take any steps You deem appropriate to safeguard and protect your own personal safety and security.

POC cannot and does not assume responsibility for any breach of your privacy or any risk to your safety that occurs as a result of any contact You have with another person associated with POC, including, but not limited to, Singles or other Point People.

Except to the extent required by law, POC cannot and does not guarantee the security of any information that You provide, nor does it take responsibility for any use made by others of such information.

POC cannot and does not assume responsibility for the content of any communication You receive from another person associated with POC, including, but not limited to, Singles or other Point People.

The services offered to You by POC are offered “as-is” and “as-available”. POC makes no representations or warranties of any kind concerning these services, whether express, implied, statutory, or other. This includes, without limitation, warranties of title, merchantability, fitness for a particular purpose, non-infringement, absence of latent or other defects, accuracy or the presence or absence of errors, whether or not known or discoverable.

To the extent possible, in no event will POC be liable to You on any legal theory (including, without limitation, negligence) or otherwise for any direct, special, indirect, incidental, consequential, punitive, exemplary, or other losses, costs, expenses, or damages arising out of your use of POC’s services, even if POC has been advised of the possibility of such losses, costs, expenses, or damages.

B. Voluntary Service and Waiver of Monetary Compensation

POC will not provide any consideration for Your activity as a Point Person. You agree that Your activity as a Point Person or any other activity to be performed in connection with POC is being provided voluntarily and without any expectation or entitlement to monetary compensation, whether direct or indirect, in any form or under any circumstances.

You herby waive any and all claims, rights, or demands for monetary compensation that may arise from or be related to Your activity as a Point Person , including but not limited to reimbursement for expenses incurred .

C. Status of Parties

Nothing contained in this Application Form shall be deemed to create a relationship of employment, partnership, principal and agent, or joint venture between the You on the one hand and POC on the other hand.

D. Termination

Without derogating from any of the above, You acknowledge and agree that POC may, at its sole discretion, terminate Your activity as a Point Person at any time and for any reason, by providing written notice to You. You may also terminate your activity as a Point Person by providing written notice to POC. Termination by POC shall be effective immediately unless You and POC agree to use a different termination date. Termination by You shall be effective 30 days from the date of notice unless You and POC agree to use a different termination date. Any agreement between You and POC to use a different termination date must be made in writing.

E. Intellectual Property

POC shall be the exclusive owner of all Profiles or any other documents created as part of your activity as a Point Person and all Intellectual Property Rights thereto. “Intellectual Property Rights” means the entire right, title and interest, whether registered or unregistered, under (i) all applicable worldwide intellectual property laws, including patent, copyright, trade secret, and trademark laws; (ii) all other rights, privileges and priorities, including Related Rights; (iii) all rights to contest, protest, sue at law for any infringement, imitation, impairment, distortion, dilution or other unauthorized use or conduct in derogation of the Deliverables and Related Rights occurring at any time, including the right to receive all proceeds and damages therefrom; and (iv) any and all rights to obtain registrations, renewal of registrations or other legal protections pertaining to the Deliverables and Related Rights. “Related Rights” means common law rights, contractual rights, proprietary rights, neighboring rights, trade secret rights, design rights, industrial design rights, rights in computer software, database rights, rights in business names and domain names, performer’s rights, rights of approval, trade dress rights, rights of publicity, rights of privacy, rights against defamation and libel, goodwill and the right to sue for passing off or unfair competition or unjust enrichment and rights to use, and protect the confidentiality of, confidential information (including know-how). Nothing in this paragraph shall be understood to derogate from a Single's rights in or ability make use of his/her own Provided Information, as defined in Section 7.

F. Indemnity

You agree to indemnify and hold harmless POC and all persons associated with it, including, without limitation, all Point People, all officers or employees (if any) and all third parties, for any losses, liabilities or other expenses (including reasonable fees charged by an attorney or a rabbinical pleader) incurred by POC or by any such Point Person, officer, employee or third party as a result of your use of the services provided by POC, including, without limitation, any actions taken by You that violate this agreement.

G. Choice of Law

This agreement is governed by the law of the State of Israel, and any claim arising out of your use of the services provided by POC shall be adjudicated in Israel. To the extent allowed by law, You and POC agree that any such claim will be adjudicated before a rabbinical court of the “Eretz Hemda — Gazit” organization according to halakha. In the event that this becomes necessary, You agree to sign an arbitration agreement in the form prescribed by Eretz Hemda — Gazit, a copy of which (in Hebrew) can be found on its website, www.beitdin.org.il. If You believe that the use of this forum for arbitration would put You at an unfair disadvantage for any reason, You and POC agree to work together to select an alternative forum for arbitration that is acceptable to both sides.

H. Supersedes Prior Agreements

This agreement supersedes and cancels any and all prior membership agreements made between You and POC or between You and any predecessor organization, group or individual operating under the name(s) "POC" and/or "Points of Contact" and/or any variation thereof.

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